23.WHEN SHOULD WE USE RESPONSIVE COMMUNICATION?
• Try to give empathetic and meaningful responses to bring coherence into an autistic world that is sensorily scrambled.
• Try to centre the person rather than hype them up, engage rather than over-stimulate. You are not playing games, or entertaining the person, but sharing something precious between the two of you.
• Try not to feel self-conscious. It means you are focussing on yourself and worrying about what others think of you, rather than on the person you are trying to engage.
• Each time you use a signal that their brain recognises (without having to process because it is part of the way they “talk” to themselves), you attract the person’s attention instantly.
• While any interaction using body language (Intensive Interaction) is helpful in reducing stress, it works best if you use their language as a part of the way you communicate with the person as a matter of course, rather than in regular “Intensive Interaction sessions”.
• Let the person lead. Once they are confident that you will give them a meaningful response, they will introduce new initiatives to ‘test the system’.
• If the person is not in the mood, do not insist on interaction. Back off, but be prepared and available for interaction if their mood changes.
• Teach as many people in the person’s support circle and family how to support them in the way to which they best respond.
• You can kick-start a conversation using the person’s language.
• You can respond to the person in another mode, that is, answer a sound with a movement or pressure that reflects their initiative.
• Become bilingual, use the person’s sounds to “gift-wrap” words they find difficult.
• Make sure that other support people present know what you are doing and that they do not interrupt with speech. It can break a precious interchange.
• Non-verbal people are more likely to come out with speech if you lower their sensory stress levels by using their language.
• You do not have to be an expert to learn to use body language to communicate.
• Try to make sure that as many people as possible in the circle of support use Responsive Communication to communicate as otherwise the person may fixate on a particular individual.